Ten Minute Consultation (optional):
This consultation would act as a way to
- Evaluate how I can help you with your concerns
- Help you assess if I feel like a good fit for your needs
This session will be lengthy and will help me gain a comprehensive picture of your mindset, lifestyle and health concerns. I will be able to personalise your care from this point on. We will arrange future sessions and their frequency based on issues you want to address, level of urgency and an estimate on the time it would take to make significant progress.
The aim here would be for me to teach you techniques from my tool-box that will fit your particular needs. I can also help you create the habit of doing them regularly.
You will have educational sessions with me and an assigned number of practice sessions to do at home which we will track together. There may also be other activities I may recommend unique to your circumstance which can help you, such as spending time in quiet green surroundings or joining a group to increase your social connections.
Along with these, we will also examine your lifestyle closely and make any changes that would help in your healing. These could include changes such as additions to your diet, changes to your sleep pattern, or to your work place (for e.g. adopting a standing desk).
Talking helps. Medical doctors buzz from one room to another changing dosages based on technical measuremets of your symptoms. But more often, the feeling of being cared for as a person, as a whole, listened to without a foot out the door can do wonders. You may be of the many people who need to talk about what they are going through, how they suffer and the difficulties they face in a way that they can’t easily do with family and friends who worry about them. The whole premise of mind-body health is that thoughts and feelings influence your metabolism. The frustrations you face, the anger, the stress, the lonliness all have a direct impact on your physical body. Understanding the various sources of positive and negative thoughts and feelings can help a great deal in addressing the health concerns you bring to me. Such talking can do a great deal for your healing process.
Secondly, the talking need not be only about your medical problem. Talking can help even in and of itself. Our lives are fast paced and very busy. There is an increasing sense of isolation as we find ourselves pretending to be who we are not, in pursuit of a goal or of an image of how we want to be perceived. Often our friends and family don’t have time to finish a meaningful conversation with us. In fact, we ourselves may not have time for processing the changes in our own lives, our thoughts and feelings. We are inundated with input, stimulation and ideas that direct us but we are left with no space or opportunity to process most of it. In this way, we often feel like circumstances control us and we are just trying to stay afloat through it all. There are many methods to change this such as daily diary writing or meditation. But for many, the preferable and perhaps more effective solution may be interpersonal. It could be as simple as having someone who will listen.
Compassionate listening involves openness, lack of judgement and the ability to really pay attention to the words and feelings of another. Your experience, questions and feelings are unique. In this type of listening the focus is not to try to find answers but to understand, empathise and leave space for outlet and expression.
Any input from me is purely optional. I am simply a truly open and attentive listener. In the process of talking to me the initial feeling may be one of release and surprise at just how much you had to say. Soon, as I start to guide your outlet, you will start to regain your bearing in your life, feel more in control of situations and become more in tune with your own deeper thoughts, feelings and needs as well as how best to address them. This heightened awareness will enable you to be clearer in decision making, lead to an overall enhancement of your mental peace, and reduce any sense of isolation you may have because you finally have a space in which you can be completely yourself, be accepted and possibly even understood.
Compassionate listening sessions are possible also through video calls such as Skype though the atmosphere and effectivity of a session in person is always better.
If you have a specific emotional issue you are trying to work through and you definitely want input and discussion, this would be the category of sessions we will plan for you. My belief is that there are some fundamentally important things to each person that tie in to their self-perception and what they want from life. I talk about this in my book called Living Fearlessly: Building inner strength through self-reflection. In discussion I can sort through your values and suggest steps that rectify or clarify the situation in a way that suits you best. In this process I offer emotional support, and guidance for life decisions in a way that mitigates the stressor. I will also train you in ways to handle the stress as it happens.
Such conversations and training together can help with short term problems such as handling exams, public speaking or interviews where stress causes blanking out. It can also help with making decisions when you are at crossroads in life, to choose what will give you more happiness in the long run. In the past, these sessions have served to pinpoint areas of people’s lives they had not realised were causing them stress, pick up habits that have helped balance their relationships, and focus on what matters to them most. My focus would be to resolve the issue you present and teach you any relevant stress management techniques which can help you handle types of stressors in the future.
Counsel sessions are possible also through video calls such as Skype though sessions in person would be recommended for as many sessions as possible, or at regular intervals.